From Mourning to Significance

When Mark’s mother and father died within five months of each other in August 2006 and January 2007, he mourned deeply over the loss. He still remembers them every day. The grieving process reminds him of the brevity of life and greater realization to be about God business. Time is short. Only what’s done for Christ will last. Nothing is more significant than that.

Worship leader, Robin Mark, wrote about this truth in a song called “When It’s All Been Said and Done.” Consider the lyrics to the verses below:

When it’s all been said and done, there is just one thing that matters. Did I do my best to live for truth? Did I live my life for you?

When it’s all been said and done, all my treasures will mean nothing. Only what I’ve done for love’s reward, will stand the test of time.”

Abraham provides a great example of mourning loss through the death of his wife, Sarah. After she died, Abraham wept and mourned for her (Genesis 23:1-2).

Acknowledging that he was a foreigner in the land of Canaan, he asked the Hittites there for a burial site to bury his wife. They were very fond of Abraham and told him that none of them would refuse his request. So, he asked them about a cave at the end of a field owned by Ephron son of Zohar. Ephron said that he would give it to him at no cost, but Abraham insisted on paying him what it was worth (verses 3-20). When the transaction was complete, Abraham buried his wife there in the cave.

In his brokenness, Abraham could have just stopped there and decided that hope was lost and chosen not to move forward. But he realized that God was not done with him yet.

He knew that there’s a time to mourn and weep over the death of loved ones and a time to move forward with life. As Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes 3:4, there is a time to weep, a time to laugh, time to mourn and time to dance.

In the very next chapter (Genesis 24), Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for his son, Isaac. He found Rebekah and the two were married. Scripture records that in this, Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. We then see how Abraham spent the rest of his days giving gifts to those who came after him, and then left his inheritance to Isaac upon his death. Genesis 25 tells us that Abraham died at a good old age, an old man full of years. He was buried with his wife in the cave that he bought for her. Because of what Christ has done, we have hope in the resurrection of the saints. When we lose someone who is in the faith, it’s not the end. We know we will see that person again in heaven.